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Why people are judgmental - How to be vigilant in your judgments of others!
‘Those people are like this, these people are like that ...
Sound familiar? Our tendency to make unfair, biased and
un-informed negative judgments of others.
your judgment and expectation of others: What does this mean for your own
personal growth towards extraordinary living?
you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~Mother Theresa
me start off by saying, it is sometimesnecessary to make judgments based on our assessment of our environment for
safety & life-preservation. This is not the context of this post.
does it mean when we negatively and unfairly judge people?, or expect people to
be a certain way, instead of just accepting and allowing people to be who they
are, or what they aspire to be.
"Your perceptions and judgments of others reveal so much
about your own personality," says Dustin Wood, assistant professor of
psychology at Wake Forest.
In the study of psychology, we find that people who tend to
describe, judge or perceive others with a more positive view, give insight into
their own personality traits & qualities. Researchers have found strong
associations between positively judging others and how enthusiastic, happy,
kind-hearted, courteous, emotionally stable and capable the person is.
really interesting finding, is that those who are less flexible in their
judgments of others, also tend to be less well-adjusted themselves. Negative
perceptions and unfair judgments of others, are linked to higher levels of
narcissism and antisocial behavior. The tendency to judge people negatively
indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.
"People who tend to say that others do things because of their
personality traits (a judgment) tend to have less adaptive personalities
themselves. Those who judge others in a rigid way, are found to have less charm
and appreciation of humor, to be less considerate and sympathetic of others, to
be more sensitive to criticism, to be fussier about small things, and to be
less warm, cheerful and interesting as a person. Those who tend to ascribe more
traits to others, also tend to be more anxious, less confident and less capable
of dealing with stress than others.”
No way to live life I'd say, and definitely counter acts
point is, if you are happy with your life and who you are, you are less likely to feel the
need to judge others, or if you are happy with who you are, and tend to take pride
& joy in being judgmental over others, then you may need to check yourself...
Reasons why we judge others
2.They are different from us.
3.They do not agree with us.
5.We do not like them.
6.They hurt us or offended us.
8.We feel rejected, accused, or insulted.
9.We expect or look for the worst in them.
10.We are angry at them.
are seeking change.
12.We want to hurt them or get them back
you from getting to know the person.
you feel worse about yourself once you are done negatively judging others.
The Psychology of Interpersonal Attraction - Social & Emotional Wellness.
Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, infatuation, lust, and admiration.
Interpersonal attraction is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships. Interpersonal attraction, as in the process, is distinct from perceptions of physical attractiveness which involves views of what is and is not considered beautiful or attractive. In other words it goes beyond aesthetics, or what you may consider as being ‘ physically hot...’
The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities…
Reinventing yourself – Change the way you live your life. The topic of reinventing one’s self is a life theme that is
particularly close to my heart. In fact as I write this blog post I feel my eyes
begin to well up with tears of positive emotion and immense passion.There is just so much to say about this
topic. Reinventing yourself takes courage and a great amount of strength
and determination. Once you decide that you want something different for
yourself, for your life, then that is when the magic begins. There is something
wondrous that is awakened deep within the chasms of your soul and psyche, and that
awakening is your awareness. Once the
proverbial light has switched on and you are finally at home within yourself to
see, then and only then can you begin the adventure of your life, to live, love
and appreciate every moment of it! What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Simply put, it means to change the way you live and or exist.
To change your life.Now this change
could be radic…
Bizarre excellence! “We walk amongst you every day, some may love us some may despise us… ” Have you ever felt like you were born in the wrong era in the wrong place and perhaps at the wrong time?Surrounded by people who just don’t see and feel what you see in the world around you?
Has your open mind and free thinking landed you in some hot water with the more conventional andconservative thinkers?
Are people telling you “No, we don’t do it like that” or “Stop trying to be something that you are not!”?
Are you the kind of person who is considered the oddball by mainstream folk because of your diverse interests and how you go about engaging and connecting with life in general?
Are you creative beyond imagination, with a quirky eclectic sense of style? Do you see the world in technicolor, have diverse interests, and dance to the music in your head. Do you have all your fingers out, feeling for the pulse of the universe and tapping to its beat?
Abv: LC - To suffer from a LC is to feel consumed by guilt, stupidity, inadequacies and most importantly shame following a big night out of over-indulgences... "I woke up with the biggest Loser Complex (LC) this morning once I realised I..." ...OK so let's start by stating that some of us know about this affliction all too well! in fact I am surprised I didn't coin the phase myself! We all know what it is, and we all know how dreadful we feel during the LC phase. Part of extraordinary living is about having a high level of awareness with regards to yourself, and accepting all the aspects of who you are, while being able to progress and strive for improvement. ...Yes even in - and through the LC moments. Let's take a closer look at what is actually happening during the LC phase; Physically: your body is still probably saturated with alcohol. your body is probably fatigued your body is dehyd…
Their right to have access to
opportunities and resources;
Their right to have the power to
control their own lives, both within and outside the home;
Their ability to influence the direction of social change to create a more
just social and economic order, nationally and internationally. (UN’s definition of women’s empowerment)
How do we become more empowered? Become self-aware. Forgive yourself if need be and accept who you are. Know yourself and be very comfortable in your own skin! That way, nobody will have power over you! Know that you are worthy and have a right to be here or there, to ask for what is needed, and to be heard. Don't believe the lie that you can't, are not worthy, or that you are incapable as a person, or a woman! It's just not true. Educate yourself, both formally (if within your means) and inf…
& narcissism – What every person should know! Being in a
relationship with a narcissist can be devastating and extremely abusive! Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by
one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or
not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or
dating. Examples of abuse
or putdowns ■keeping
a partner from contacting their family or friends ■withholding
a partner from getting or keeping a job ■actual
or threatened physical harm ■sexual
Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault
(hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or forced sexual
activity), and stalking. Although emotional, psychological abuse (such as gas-lighting) and financial abuse
are not criminal behaviors, however, they are forms of abuse under the domestic violence act in South Africa, and a protection order may…
Stress leads to crisis and crisis leads to stress! So check yourself before you wreck yourself...
Symptoms, Signs, Causes, and Effects
Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. In small doses, stress can motivate you and help you perform under pressure. But when you’re constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price. You can protect yourself by recognizing the signs and symptoms of stress and taking steps to reduce its harmful effects.
In This Article: What is stress? How do you respond to stress? Signs and symptoms of stress overload How much stress is too much? Causes of stress Effects of chronic stress Dealing with stress
What is stress?
The Body’s Stress Response When you perceive a threat, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones rouse the body for emergency action. Your heart p…
Platonic friendships and
your well-being Platonic friendships,
opposite sex bonding and attraction patterns… Is it possible to maintain &
sustain a friendship with the opposite sex, or of the same sex if gay, without
actually having SEX?As an eternal ‘TOM-BOY’“Definition- noun - an energetic, sometimes
boisterous girl whose behavior and pursuits, especially in games and sports,
are considered more typical of boys than of girls.” ...And as a ‘FREE
SPIRIT’ “definition - noun - a person with a highly individual or unique
attitude, lifestyle, or imagination; nonconformist. I can tell you that it is highly possible!
Meaningful deep friendships between heterosexual opposite
genders (or same sex if gay) are possible, yet can be tricky, especially if at
times feelings may become blurred or confused. The important thing is to think
through the attraction! The initial attraction that you may feel
towards your friend of the opposite sex is perfectly normal, and is nature’s
way of bringing us …
Self-acceptance as a catalyst for flourishing in your life –
live your extraordinary life! In psychology self-acceptance is defined as affirmation or
acceptance of self in spite of weaknesses or deficiencies. It’s got to do with
accepting the good with the bad, the positive and the negative aspects of yourself,
as well as being completely comfortable in your own skin. This is easier said than done for most people.
Self-acceptance can be one of the most challenging and difficult life
shifts one can make, but it's also the most rewarding and life-changing! According to Shepard (1979), self-acceptance refers to an
individual's satisfaction or happiness with himself, and is thought to be
necessary for good mental health. Self- acceptance involves self-understanding; meaning
a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses. It
results in an individual feeling that he/she is of
"unique worth" in spite of real or perceived imperfection.
Kissing, it’s all in a kiss… The science of kissing - Philematology Hmmm kissing, yummy, delicious,
sensual… Just imagine it, the initial
exhilarating - electrifying attraction. Before your lips actually make magnetic
contact, there is that intoxicating, dizzying, barely there, close proximity,
intensity - eyes with a downward gaze, fixed on the fleshy facial objects of
desire.By this stage your bodies are
connected by parallel contact of some form.This is the ultra-sensual, pheromone like, hypnotic pull towards
each others inviting luscious lips… Then, in a trance like state, there
is the deep automatic inhalation and the final lip lick, just split seconds
before your blood filled, moist & ready lips pucker up and engage with
one another’s . We explore with our tongues,
caress with our lips. Unconsciously, we inhale deeply - Olfactory senses kick
in! We are literally breathing in each others scent, and tasting each others saliva. This is either going to
draw us closer, or make us hea…