Well-being - Living a fulfilled, meaningful and extraordinary life.
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term ‘life balance’ seems to be a bit of an oxymoron of late rather than a
state of being.
equilibrium - Definition
1. a stable condition in which forces cancel one
2. a state or feeling of mental balance;
3. (Physics / General Physics) any unchanging
condition or state of a body, system, etc., resulting from the balance or
cancelling out of the influences or processes to which it is subjected See thermodynamic equilibrium
4. (Physics / General Physics) Physics a state
of rest or uniform motion in which there is no resultant force on a body
5. (Chemistry) Chem the condition existing when
a chemical reaction and its reverse reaction take place at equal rates
6. (Physics / General Physics) Physics the
condition of a system that has its total energy distributed among its component
parts in the statistically most probable manner
7. (Life Sciences & Allied Applications /
Physiology) Physiol a state of bodily balance, maintained primarily by
special receptors in the inner ear
8. (Economics) the economic condition in which there
is neither excess demand nor excess supply in a market
[from Latin aequilībrium, from aequi-equi- + lībra pound,
that maintaining a healthy life balance is essential for both our happiness and
well-being; it enhances our productivity and careers. A person with a
well-balanced life has a far greater ability to focus their attention and
energy on attaining their goals, taking productive actions and moving forward
in a meaningful way towards self-actualization.
balance might be a first for many, as some might never have known what it means
to live a balanced life, or what it feels like when in a state of balanced
what does life
balance really mean? What would a balanced life look like to us? And
most importantly, how do we go about achieving it within our hectic work – life
‘Our bodies are well adapted to this state of affairs
and respond appropriately when conditions deviate from their optimal state.
This ability of an organism to maintain equilibrium (balance) by adjusting
appropriately to the external environment is known as homeostasis.
Therein lay the key to understanding balance.
Balance is the taking of appropriate action when circumstances dictate, so as to
maintain equilibrium. It is said that the great achievement of the sages of old
was the achievement of great balance as human beings. How did they achieve
great balance? In the present moment, when things would come up, they would
are steps you can take to change what isn’t working and get back some control
and balance in your life. Once you start seeing results you’ll be better
equipped to maintain that new found equilibrium. The key is not to try to
change everything at once, but to make small adjustments over time to determine
what works for you. Eventually you will have a whole new set of positive life
habits and you’ll never look back!
“There is no
secret to balance. You just have to feel the waves.” – Frank Herbert
2.Get sufficient rest. About eight hours of sleep
helps the body repair itself. You may personally need more or less, as sleep
requirements vary between people.
3.Eat healthier. Look online and find the food
pyramid, then try balancing your caloric intake with your exercise. There
are several competing food pyramids, so pick one or two because following all
of them would be too hard. “Food
is an important part of a balanced diet.” – FranLebowitz
4.Find time to relax. Just lie down and think about
what you did before you started relaxing, then let it go.
5.Pick a hobby that you enjoy. Hobbies can counter daily
6.Plan out your day, set goals and visualize, but don't stress
out if you don't accomplish everything just the way you planned. Remain
flexible and try different approaches to your goals. Remember, sometimes life
happens, and you may not have time for everything. Just be productive in the
time you have.
7.Write but keep it positive. No negative thoughts. If you
have negative thoughts, do not write them down. Find someone you can vent
negative thoughts to -- pretending to be happy all the time will do no good for
you in the long run.
8.Find out and
develop your talents. Go out and do activities to find what you like and then
pursue the one or two that strike your fancy. If you do three of them that will
be too stressful.
diary or journal. This would be a good place to write things. Write down
three things or that you appreciate each day.
10.Read. There's something for everyone- check out your local
library & book stores to test the waters.
11.Try to set goals that are reasonable to achieve. Unreasonable goals are harder
and will probably just lead to disappointment.
12.Meditate or pray.
13.Communicate with nature. Go outside, hike, go camping,
or have fishing trip. You may find yourself doing most of the talking.
14.Do a good
deeds for other people. Pay kindness forward.
17. Mend hurt relationships with loved ones, say sorry.
18.Get a good education. To get a good self-supporting
job, master the skills necessary for your advancement. That way you will not be
dependent upon anyone else.
19.The job has to be the one you love. "Love it or leave
it." Or learn to love it!
20.Money is not the most important thing. Fulfilment and Happiness are the most important
things. “Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance
and order and rhythm and harmony.” – Thomas Merton
“Finding a sense of balance and harmony at some point
in any aspect of life will soon turn to disharmony and loss of balance if you
try to hold on and freeze that moment forever. Such action is futile and will
only lead to pain and your own suffering. The only constant is change. The
waves come in, break and recede. Then they roll on in again. Instead of
fighting and being tumbled painfully ashore, feel the waves coming and ride
them out.” – Stephen Cox
The Psychology of Interpersonal Attraction - Social & Emotional Wellness.
Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, infatuation, lust, and admiration.
Interpersonal attraction is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships. Interpersonal attraction, as in the process, is distinct from perceptions of physical attractiveness which involves views of what is and is not considered beautiful or attractive. In other words it goes beyond aesthetics, or what you may consider as being ‘ physically hot...’
The study of interpersonal attraction is a major area of research in social psychology. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation. When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities…
Reinventing yourself – Change the way you live your life. The topic of reinventing one’s self is a life theme that is
particularly close to my heart. In fact as I write this blog post I feel my eyes
begin to well up with tears of positive emotion and immense passion.There is just so much to say about this
topic. Reinventing yourself takes courage and a great amount of strength
and determination. Once you decide that you want something different for
yourself, for your life, then that is when the magic begins. There is something
wondrous that is awakened deep within the chasms of your soul and psyche, and that
awakening is your awareness. Once the
proverbial light has switched on and you are finally at home within yourself to
see, then and only then can you begin the adventure of your life, to live, love
and appreciate every moment of it! What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Simply put, it means to change the way you live and or exist.
To change your life.Now this change
could be radic…
Bizarre excellence! “We walk amongst you every day, some may love us some may despise us… ” Have you ever felt like you were born in the wrong era in the wrong place and perhaps at the wrong time?Surrounded by people who just don’t see and feel what you see in the world around you?
Has your open mind and free thinking landed you in some hot water with the more conventional andconservative thinkers?
Are people telling you “No, we don’t do it like that” or “Stop trying to be something that you are not!”?
Are you the kind of person who is considered the oddball by mainstream folk because of your diverse interests and how you go about engaging and connecting with life in general?
Are you creative beyond imagination, with a quirky eclectic sense of style? Do you see the world in technicolor, have diverse interests, and dance to the music in your head. Do you have all your fingers out, feeling for the pulse of the universe and tapping to its beat?
Abv: LC - To suffer from a LC is to feel consumed by guilt, stupidity, inadequacies and most importantly shame following a big night out of over-indulgences... "I woke up with the biggest Loser Complex (LC) this morning once I realised I..." ...OK so let's start by stating that some of us know about this affliction all too well! in fact I am surprised I didn't coin the phase myself! We all know what it is, and we all know how dreadful we feel during the LC phase. Part of extraordinary living is about having a high level of awareness with regards to yourself, and accepting all the aspects of who you are, while being able to progress and strive for improvement. ...Yes even in - and through the LC moments. Let's take a closer look at what is actually happening during the LC phase; Physically: your body is still probably saturated with alcohol. your body is probably fatigued your body is dehyd…
Their right to have access to
opportunities and resources;
Their right to have the power to
control their own lives, both within and outside the home;
Their ability to influence the direction of social change to create a more
just social and economic order, nationally and internationally. (UN’s definition of women’s empowerment)
How do we become more empowered? Become self-aware. Forgive yourself if need be and accept who you are. Know yourself and be very comfortable in your own skin! That way, nobody will have power over you! Know that you are worthy and have a right to be here or there, to ask for what is needed, and to be heard. Don't believe the lie that you can't, are not worthy, or that you are incapable as a person, or a woman! It's just not true. Educate yourself, both formally (if within your means) and inf…
& narcissism – What every person should know! Being in a
relationship with a narcissist can be devastating and extremely abusive! Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by
one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or
not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or
dating. Examples of abuse
or putdowns ■keeping
a partner from contacting their family or friends ■withholding
a partner from getting or keeping a job ■actual
or threatened physical harm ■sexual
Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault
(hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or forced sexual
activity), and stalking. Although emotional, psychological abuse (such as gas-lighting) and financial abuse
are not criminal behaviors, however, they are forms of abuse under the domestic violence act in South Africa, and a protection order may…
Kissing, it’s all in a kiss… The science of kissing - Philematology Hmmm kissing, yummy, delicious,
sensual… Just imagine it, the initial
exhilarating - electrifying attraction. Before your lips actually make magnetic
contact, there is that intoxicating, dizzying, barely there, close proximity,
intensity - eyes with a downward gaze, fixed on the fleshy facial objects of
desire.By this stage your bodies are
connected by parallel contact of some form.This is the ultra-sensual, pheromone like, hypnotic pull towards
each others inviting luscious lips… Then, in a trance like state, there
is the deep automatic inhalation and the final lip lick, just split seconds
before your blood filled, moist & ready lips pucker up and engage with
one another’s . We explore with our tongues,
caress with our lips. Unconsciously, we inhale deeply - Olfactory senses kick
in! We are literally breathing in each others scent, and tasting each others saliva. This is either going to
draw us closer, or make us hea…
Stress leads to crisis and crisis leads to stress! So check yourself before you wreck yourself...
Symptoms, Signs, Causes, and Effects
Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. In small doses, stress can motivate you and help you perform under pressure. But when you’re constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price. You can protect yourself by recognizing the signs and symptoms of stress and taking steps to reduce its harmful effects.
In This Article: What is stress? How do you respond to stress? Signs and symptoms of stress overload How much stress is too much? Causes of stress Effects of chronic stress Dealing with stress
What is stress?
The Body’s Stress Response When you perceive a threat, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones rouse the body for emergency action. Your heart p…
Platonic friendships and
your well-being Platonic friendships,
opposite sex bonding and attraction patterns… Is it possible to maintain &
sustain a friendship with the opposite sex, or of the same sex if gay, without
actually having SEX?As an eternal ‘TOM-BOY’“Definition- noun - an energetic, sometimes
boisterous girl whose behavior and pursuits, especially in games and sports,
are considered more typical of boys than of girls.” ...And as a ‘FREE
SPIRIT’ “definition - noun - a person with a highly individual or unique
attitude, lifestyle, or imagination; nonconformist. I can tell you that it is highly possible!
Meaningful deep friendships between heterosexual opposite
genders (or same sex if gay) are possible, yet can be tricky, especially if at
times feelings may become blurred or confused. The important thing is to think
through the attraction! The initial attraction that you may feel
towards your friend of the opposite sex is perfectly normal, and is nature’s
way of bringing us …
Self-acceptance as a catalyst for flourishing in your life –
live your extraordinary life! In psychology self-acceptance is defined as affirmation or
acceptance of self in spite of weaknesses or deficiencies. It’s got to do with
accepting the good with the bad, the positive and the negative aspects of yourself,
as well as being completely comfortable in your own skin. This is easier said than done for most people.
Self-acceptance can be one of the most challenging and difficult life
shifts one can make, but it's also the most rewarding and life-changing! According to Shepard (1979), self-acceptance refers to an
individual's satisfaction or happiness with himself, and is thought to be
necessary for good mental health. Self- acceptance involves self-understanding; meaning
a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses. It
results in an individual feeling that he/she is of
"unique worth" in spite of real or perceived imperfection.